Righteously Mad
I’m mad.
And not the kind of mad that fades by morning.
I’m righteously mad.
This kind of anger doesn’t come from a bad mood or a hormone swing. It’s not some fleeting emotional reaction to a rough day. It’s the kind of fire that comes from lived experience. It’s the kind of fire that gets earned.
Let me explain.
I’m a pharmacist. I’ve been in healthcare for more than 27 years. And when my own body started changing in my 40s: sleep gone, weight up, anxiety kicking like a mule… I didn’t immediately recognize it as “perimenopause.” You know why?
Because no one taught me. Not in pharmacy school. Not in continuing education. Not in the conferences I attended or the medical journals I read. The system I was trained in did not prepare me to care for women in midlife. And it certainly didn’t prepare me to care for myself.
So when I started feeling off… when I couldn’t sleep, when my mood flipped on a dime, when I didn’t even recognize my own body… I did what most women do. I went to my doctor.
And I got handed a vague diagnosis, prescriptions for Metformin, Zoloft, Buspar, Metoprolol, Bentyl, Meloxicam, Ambien, and the message I now hear over and over again from women everywhere: “This is just getting older.”
“You’re under a lot of stress.”
“Here’s something to help you sleep.”
No one asked about my hormones. No one told me my estrogen was crashing. No one told me that estrogen is intricately connected to serotonin, dopamine, and how I process stress.
No one warned me that hormone decline would impact my memory, my metabolism, my mood, my muscle tone, and my motivation.
But I learned. And once I saw it… really saw it… I couldn’t unsee it. So I dug deeper.
Functional medicine. Hormone therapy. Personalized medicine.
I attended the lectures, completed the trainings, met the researchers. And the more I learned, the angrier I got. Not emotional. Not unstable.
Righteously angry.
Because I realized what women are being denied. I realized how many are walking through midlife with no map, no support, and no explanation for why they feel like a stranger in their own skin. I realized how many are being told they’re “too emotional” or “too sensitive,” when what they actually are is completely unsupported. And I realized how many brilliant, capable, extraordinary women are blaming themselves for a system that failed them.
That’s what lights my fire.
Because what’s happening isn’t just unfortunate. It’s inexcusable. Only 20% of OB-GYNs receive any menopause training. Antidepressants are prescribed faster than hormones. Symptoms are brushed off. Women are sidelined. And the data? It’s there. It’s just being ignored.
I didn’t start The Hormonal Pharmacist to sell supplements or hand out wellness tips.
I started it because I was mad. And because I knew that anger meant something. It meant change was overdue.
It meant women were waking up. It meant I had a choice: stay quiet or start fighting. And really… is that even a choice?
So if you’re feeling it too or if you’ve been brushing off your frustration as “just hormones” or “just life”… I want you to consider something.
What if your anger is the most honest part of you right now?
What if it’s a signal that something’s out of alignment—and it’s time to do something about it?
What if being mad isn’t a weakness at all?
What if it’s a sign that you’re finally seeing clearly?
I’m not here to help you “calm down.” I’m here to help you use that fire to take your power back. To get answers. To stop settling. To demand better—for yourself, and for the women coming behind you.
If you’re ready to stop being dismissed and start being understood:
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